How many mothers out there have neglected themselves since having children?

Before i had my daughter i had JUST lost 30 kgs (almost 60lbs) i went to the gym everyday, ate well, had my hair done once a month, waxed evey month blah blah blah. I now weigh what i weighed before i lost my weight, my hair is HORRID, im so hairy i look like a bloke and eating well whats that, if and when i do eat its crap...i really want to do something but i start and get a week in and something goes crazy like she teeths and i get no sleep or at the moment i have my 4 nieces 2 days a week and work 3-4 days a week. Really just looking for a sympathetic ear or even some words of wisdom as to how you broke out of this post baby rut?????